Dec 29, 2009
Dec 18, 2009
Random Stuffs About Me
I'm 27 years old.gemini.ambivert but more of an introvert.shy type but can be outgoing at times.when it comes to friends,quality is important than quantity,i'd rather have few true friends than surround myself with a lot of fake ones. flirt.open minded.liberated but with a touch of being a conservative as well(like i don't go for orgies, and other stuffs like that,heck no!).loves books,movies and music.prefers indoors than outdoors.prefers gadgets than fashionable clothes,loves make up though.geek.loves any alcoholic beverages.likes blogging,texting and playing computer games.cries over sad movies and books.loves flawed but amazing people.hates total plastic ones.can be a bitch at times but most of the time i'm a total angel(blush).smokes cigarette and honestly wanna try weed.risk taker.i'm a sucker for smart and handsome guys,total hotties with brains rocks! dumb and vain guys turns me off.loves to kiss and cuddle.emotional.narcissistic.insecure at times.loves deeply.chubby.petite(4'11).procrastinator.messy with my stuffs.deep.silent type.loves junk foods,cappuccino and strawberry icecream.loves gays and comedians.hates politicians and politics.finds men in uniform hot,preferably soldiers.loves my mom and my siblings.still cry over my father's death.hates hospitals.believes in God and the power of prayer but not in religion.hates arrogant and annoying people.loves to sleep.loves life.dreamer.
Dec 16, 2009
For The Smart Ladies Who Are Still in the Dark
Here are some of the truths presented by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, authors of the book He's Just Not That Into You. This entry goes out to all the smart ladies out there who are still in the dark(Wake up!!!!!).
* We go out with someone, we get excited about them, and then they do something that mildly disappoints us. Then they keep doing a lot more things that disappoint us. Then we go into hyper-excuse mode for weeks or possibly months, because the last thing we want to think is that this great man that we are so excited about is in the process of turning into a creep. We try to come up with some explanation for why they’re behaving that way, any explanation, no matter how ridiculous, than the one explanation that’s the truth: He’s just not that into me.
* wasting time with the wrong person is just time wasted. And when you do move on and find your right person, believe me, you’re not going to wish you had gotten to spend more time with Stinky the Time-Waster or Freddy Can’t-Remember-to-Call.
* When a guy is into you, he let’s you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can’t keep his eyes or hands off of you, and when it’s time to have sex, he’s more than overjoyed to oblige. I don’t care if he’s starting his new job as the president of the United States the next morning at 0400 (that’s 4 A.M. ladies!). He’s coming up!
* If a dude isn’t calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he’s dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him, his actions are screaming the truth: He’s just not that into you.
* Move on, sister! Cut your losses and don’t waste your time. Why stay in some weird dating limbo when
you can move on to what will surely be better territory? Don’t want to hear it? Fine. Here’s the answer you’re looking for: “Hang in there, baby. He’s not the loser everybody’s telling you he is. If you wait and keep your mouth shut and call at exactly the right time and anticipate his moods and have no expectations about communication or your own sexual needs, you can have him!” But please don’t be surprised when he dumps you or continues to drag you through a completely unsatisfying relationship.
* a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that he’s just not that into you.
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He’s Not Asking You Out
Because If He Likes You,
Trust Me, He Will Ask You Out
* Guys don’t mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a “fuck buddy” situation or a meaningful romance.
* from a guy's perspective: Sex could mess up a friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. If we’re really excited about someone, we can’t stop ourselves—we want more. If we’re friends with someone and attracted to them, we’re going to want to take it further.
* If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that
immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and
go away.
* “Give me a call.” “E-mail me.” “Tell Joey we should all hang out sometime.” Don’t let him trick you into asking him out. When men want you, they do the work. but when men like women, they ask them out.
* If he likes you, he’ll still remember you after the tsunami, flood, or Red Sox loss. If he doesn’t, he’s not worth your time.
* When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you’d like us to be.” I know it’s an infuriating concept—that men like to chase and you have to let us chase you. I know. It’s insulting. It’s frustrating. It’s unfortunately the truth. My belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he’s just not that into you.
* from a woman's perspective: Because if the men are asking you out, if the men have to get your attention, then you, in fact, are the one in control. There’s no scheming and plotting. And there is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn’t ever feel like I’m just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it’s good for us all to remember that we don’t need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We’re fantastic.
* Don’t let the “honeys” and “babys” fool you. His sweet nothings are exactly that. They are much easier to say than “I’m just not that into you.” Remember, actions speak louder than “There’s no cell reception where I am right now.”
* “Is it okay for a guy to forget to call me?” I’m saying to you, “No.” Barring disaster—someone had to be rushed to the hospital, he was just fired from his job, someone keyed his Ferrari (kidding)—he should never forget to call you. If I like you, I don’t forget you, ever. Don’t you want the guy who’ll forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets about you?
* Most guys will say what they think you want to hear at the end of a date or a phone call, rather than nothing at all. Some guys are lying, some guys really mean it. Here’s how you can tell the difference: You know they mean it when they actually do what they said they were going to do. Here’s something else to think about: Calling when you say you’re going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna to have a house, baby. And it’s cold outside.
* So if a guy you’re dating doesn’t call when he says he’s going to, why should that be such a big deal? Because you should be dating a man who’s at least as good as his word.
* space in a relationship is good. Missing someone is a sign of a healthy relationship. Not respecting your need to have some form of connection with him while he’s away is not. Regardless of his dislike for talking on the phone, he should respect and care for you enough to call you, if only because he knows that it will make you happy.
* The word “busy” is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact, in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.
* You’ll never see you staring maniacally at your phone, willing it to ring. You’ll never see you ruining an evening with friends because you’re calling for your messages every fifteen seconds. You’ll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn’t have. What you will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You’ll be too busy being adored.
* Men, just like women, want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship starts to become serious. One way they do that is by laying claim to it. They actually want to say “I’m your boyfriend” or “I’d like to be your boyfriend” or “If you ever break up with that other guy who’s not your boyfriend, I’d like to be your boyfriend.” A man who’s really into you is going to want you all to himself. And why wouldn’t he, hot stuff?
* It’s about the guy who wants you, calls you, makes you feel sexy and desired fully. He wants to see you more and more often because every time he sees you, he likes and then loves you more and more. Every two weeks, once a month, seeing someone, having a little love and affection may help you get through the day or the week or the month—but will it help you get through a lifetime?
* no more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified, and no more undeclared. And if at all possible, try to know someone as best you can before you get naked with them.
* a fear of intimacy” has never stopped them from getting into a relationship. One guy even remarked, “Fear of intimacy is an urban myth.” Another guy said,“That’s just what we say to girls when we’re just not that into them.”
* cheating doesn’t just “happen.” It’s not an accident as in, “Oops, I just slipped and fell into a sexual relationship with someone else.” It was planned and executed with the full knowledge that it could end your relationship. Know this: If he’s sleeping with someone else without your knowledge or encouragement, he is not only behaving like a man who’s just not that into you, he’s behaving like a man who doesn’t even like you all that much.
* If you are in a mutually established monogamous relationship, then when someone cheats on you, they have decided to blatantly disrespect a very important decision you two made together. They’ve chosen to do this without your knowledge, thereby adding lies and secrecy to your relationship.
* Let’s call cheating what it is: a complete betrayal of trust. Cheaters are people who have a lot of stuff to work out and they’re working it out on your time and with your heart. Some cheaters might give you an excuse, some might not have one at all, some might even blame you. No one can tell you exactly what to do when faced with this very complicated and painful situation. But the bottom line is, is this what you had hoped for in a relationship?
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He Only Wants to See
You When He’s Drunk
If He Likes You, He’ll Want to See You When His
Judgment isn’t Impaired
* Ladies, don’t let your desire to be loved and feel affection cloud your judgment (like a big tall glass of scotch). If you are lucky enough not to be dealing with the profound, painful problems of being married to, living with, or born to, an alcoholic, and you just happen to be dating a guy that you notice drinks an awful lot, please beware. Know you deserve not just an affectionate, attentive boyfriend, but you deserve an affectionate, attentive, sober one.
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He Doesn’t Want to
Marry You
Love Cures Commitment-Phobia
* I’m not ready. This is the most often used excuse in the world, but it always seems to do the trick. Women love waiting around for men to be ready. You women must enjoy it, because you do it so much of the time. Which is ironic to me, since you’re the ones with the biological clocks that are supposedly ticking away. Listen, we all know that couple who’s been dating for five years…eight years and still hasn’t gotten married. We know it never works out well for that couple. So how about you stop waiting—and start looking for that guy who can’t wait to love you.
* He’s Just Not That Into You If
He’s Breaking Up with You
“I Don’t Want to Go Out with You”
Means Just That
* Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You’re deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.
* Don’t underestimate the power of sex, even with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time.Especially with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time. Breaking up means not seeing them again, which also implies not seeing them naked again. It may be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it’s still called breakup sex. No one has yet to rename it oh-my-God-the-sexwas-so-good-wegot-back-together-again-and-lived-happily-ever-after sex.
* Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company. If aliens haven’t recently abducted your beloved and switched his brain for the brain of a guy who’s really into you, please consider the option that the bum maybe just got a little lonely.
* Don’t confuse being classy with being a doormat. Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with dignity. Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal.
* One simple rule, ladies: Always be classy. Never be crazy. Okay, actually it’s two simple rules, but trust me, you will never be sad you followed them. If for no other reason, it will ensure that you never have that awful memory of cutting his clothes in half or dumping his dog on the side of the road.
* A guy says he doesn’t want to be with you. Sometimes that guy realizes he’s made the biggest mistake of his life. And then sometimes he doesn’t. Either way, either way, your only job is to move on with your life, and fast. He can always try to chase you down as you’re running down the block. If he does, just remember that it will sound like this: “Let’s get back together.” “Let’s go into counseling.” “Let’s try again.” “I miss you. I made a mistake. I want to be with you.” Here’s what it won’t sound like: “Will you walk my dog?” “Just calling to check in.” “Want to see that movie?” “Will you go to Cousin George’s wedding with me?”
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He’s Disappeared on You
Sometimes You Have to Get Closure
All by Yourself
* He’s gone. Poof. Vanished into thin air. Well, there’s no mixed message here. He’s made it clear that he’s so not into you that he couldn’t even bother to leave you a Post-it. This time you may not be so quick to make excuses for his behavior. It’s so painful, it’s impossible not to be hurt or angry. But because of that, you might be tempted to make some excuses for yourself. You have good reason to want to spend a lot of energy solving the Mystery of the Disappearing Man. But all those excuses, however valid they are, will not help you in the long run. Because the only part of that story that’s important to remember is that he didn’t want to be with you anymore. And he didn’t have the guts to tell you that to your face. Case closed.
* The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed. The hard part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing. Don’t ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could have done it differently. Don’t waste your valuable heart and mind trying to figure out why he did what he did. Or thinking back on all the things he said, and wondering what was the truth and what was the lie. The only thing you need to know is that it’s really good news: He’s gone. Hallelujah. See ya in the funny papers, yellow-belly!
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He’s Married (and Other
Insane Variations of Being Unavailable)
If You’re Not Able to Love Freely,
It’s Not Really Love
* No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing. Sure, they may feel powerful, deep, mythic in scope and proportion. You may “never ever have felt this way before.” But who cares? If the person you “love” (notice the snotty quotation marks around that) cannot freely spend his days thinking about you and being with you, it’s not real love.
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He’s a Selfish Jerk, a
Bully, or a Really Big Freak
If You Really Love Someone, You Want to Do
Things to Make That Person Happy
* There’s lots of behavior that can be considered abusive that doesn’t include being beaten about the head and neck. That includes getting yelled at, being publicly humiliated, or being made to feel fat and unattractive. It’s hard to feel worthy of love when someone is going out of their way to make you feel worthless. Being told to get out of these relationships may not work for you. Knowing that you’re better than these relationships is the place to start. You are better than these relationships.
* When two people are connecting, they hunger for information about each other, a sliver of what life is like when you’re not together, a glimpse into their past, a peek into their mind,all in hopes of getting under their skin.
* You will meet people who don’t like to be touched, or kissed, or who don’t like sex. You can spend a lot of time trying to fix them, or wondering if you should take it personally. Or you can realize that they simply don’t like to do the things you find absolutely essential to your enjoyment of life, and then go find yourself someone who does.
* Being lonely, being alone, for many people, sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that, yes, my true belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are, is worse.
* You want to believe that you are better than all the crap you’ve been taking from all these men all these years. Well you are. You are an excellent, foxy human being worthy of love, and the only way you can pursue that idea is by honoring yourself. At the very least this means ridding your world of dudes who are not worthy and setting a standard of excellence in your daily life.
* Let’s start with this statistic: You are delicious. Be brave, my sweet. I know you can get lonely. I know you can crave companionship and sex and love so badly that it physically hurts. But I truly believe that the only way you can find out that there’s something better out there is to first believe there’s something better out there. I’ll believe it for you until you’re ready.
* Don’t Listen to These Stories->Sure. There are the stories. Guys that get pursued by some girl first and she ends up being the love of his life; the guy that treats this girl that he sometimes sleeps with like shit for a couple of years, but she keeps at him and now he’s a devoted husband and father; the guy who doesn’t call a girl that he’s slept with for a month, and then calls her and they live happily ever after; the woman who is sleeping with the married guy who she ends up marrying and having a blissful long-term marriage with. We don’t want you to listen to these stories. These stories don’t help you. These stories are the exceptions to the rule. We want you to think of yourself as the rule. Thinking of yourself as the exception is what got you into this mess in the first place. Tell your friends to stop telling you these stories. Whenever you hear one of these stories, a story where some woman was treated badly but it all worked out okay in the end, just put your hands up to your ears and go “la-la-la-la-la!” You are exceptional, but not the exception!!
* But I think we could ask you to at least try to notice, even just a tiny bit, how good it feels to be out of a relationship with someone who actually wasn’t that into you. Can you at least feel that sense of relief? When you think about it, making all those excuses for someone and trying to “figure someone out” takes up a lot of energy. Think of all the time you’ve opened up for so many other more positive things besides obsessing over him. Yes, breakups are painful, even from someone you may have only dated a few times. You may have been really excited about him and had a lot of hopes for the future. But how empowering to have the mental clarity to say, “He just wasn’t that into me.” Can you imagine that girl in the future? Nothing will be able to stop her!
* Standard Suggestions from Greg and LIz
I will not go out with a man who hasn’t asked me out first.
I will not go out with a man who keeps me waiting by the phone.
I will not date a man who isn’t sure he wants to date me.
I will not date a man who makes me feel sexually undesirable.
I will not date a man who drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable.
will not be with a man who’s afraid to talk about our future.
I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me.
I will not date a man who is married.
I will not be with a man who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.
* being in a good relationship is much better than being in a bad relationship, and you’ll never be able to be in a good relationship if you’re sticking with Mr. Shitty What’s His Name. Only you can know if the relationship you’re in isn’t good enough for you. A good indication that it’s not is if you’re only staying with What’s His Name because you’re scared.
* We go out with someone, we get excited about them, and then they do something that mildly disappoints us. Then they keep doing a lot more things that disappoint us. Then we go into hyper-excuse mode for weeks or possibly months, because the last thing we want to think is that this great man that we are so excited about is in the process of turning into a creep. We try to come up with some explanation for why they’re behaving that way, any explanation, no matter how ridiculous, than the one explanation that’s the truth: He’s just not that into me.
* wasting time with the wrong person is just time wasted. And when you do move on and find your right person, believe me, you’re not going to wish you had gotten to spend more time with Stinky the Time-Waster or Freddy Can’t-Remember-to-Call.
* When a guy is into you, he let’s you know it. He calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can’t keep his eyes or hands off of you, and when it’s time to have sex, he’s more than overjoyed to oblige. I don’t care if he’s starting his new job as the president of the United States the next morning at 0400 (that’s 4 A.M. ladies!). He’s coming up!
* If a dude isn’t calling you when he says he will, or making sure you know that he’s dating you, then you already have your answer. Stop making excuses for him, his actions are screaming the truth: He’s just not that into you.
* Move on, sister! Cut your losses and don’t waste your time. Why stay in some weird dating limbo when
you can move on to what will surely be better territory? Don’t want to hear it? Fine. Here’s the answer you’re looking for: “Hang in there, baby. He’s not the loser everybody’s telling you he is. If you wait and keep your mouth shut and call at exactly the right time and anticipate his moods and have no expectations about communication or your own sexual needs, you can have him!” But please don’t be surprised when he dumps you or continues to drag you through a completely unsatisfying relationship.
* a man would rather be trampled by elephants that are on fire than tell you that he’s just not that into you.
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He’s Not Asking You Out
Because If He Likes You,
Trust Me, He Will Ask You Out
* Guys don’t mind messing up a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be a “fuck buddy” situation or a meaningful romance.
* from a guy's perspective: Sex could mess up a friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. If we’re really excited about someone, we can’t stop ourselves—we want more. If we’re friends with someone and attracted to them, we’re going to want to take it further.
* If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that
immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and
go away.
* “Give me a call.” “E-mail me.” “Tell Joey we should all hang out sometime.” Don’t let him trick you into asking him out. When men want you, they do the work. but when men like women, they ask them out.
* If he likes you, he’ll still remember you after the tsunami, flood, or Red Sox loss. If he doesn’t, he’s not worth your time.
* When it comes to men, deal with us as we are, not how you’d like us to be.” I know it’s an infuriating concept—that men like to chase and you have to let us chase you. I know. It’s insulting. It’s frustrating. It’s unfortunately the truth. My belief is that if you have to be the aggressor, if you have to pursue, if you have to do the asking out, nine times out of ten, he’s just not that into you.
* from a woman's perspective: Because if the men are asking you out, if the men have to get your attention, then you, in fact, are the one in control. There’s no scheming and plotting. And there is something great about knowing that my only job is to be as happy as I can be about my life, and feel as good as I can about myself, and to lead as full and eventful a life as I can, so that it doesn’t ever feel like I’m just waiting around for some guy to ask me out. And most importantly, it’s good for us all to remember that we don’t need to scheme and plot and beg to get someone to ask us out. We’re fantastic.
* Don’t let the “honeys” and “babys” fool you. His sweet nothings are exactly that. They are much easier to say than “I’m just not that into you.” Remember, actions speak louder than “There’s no cell reception where I am right now.”
* “Is it okay for a guy to forget to call me?” I’m saying to you, “No.” Barring disaster—someone had to be rushed to the hospital, he was just fired from his job, someone keyed his Ferrari (kidding)—he should never forget to call you. If I like you, I don’t forget you, ever. Don’t you want the guy who’ll forget about all the other things in his life before he forgets about you?
* Most guys will say what they think you want to hear at the end of a date or a phone call, rather than nothing at all. Some guys are lying, some guys really mean it. Here’s how you can tell the difference: You know they mean it when they actually do what they said they were going to do. Here’s something else to think about: Calling when you say you’re going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can’t lay this one stupid brick down, you ain’t never gonna to have a house, baby. And it’s cold outside.
* So if a guy you’re dating doesn’t call when he says he’s going to, why should that be such a big deal? Because you should be dating a man who’s at least as good as his word.
* space in a relationship is good. Missing someone is a sign of a healthy relationship. Not respecting your need to have some form of connection with him while he’s away is not. Regardless of his dislike for talking on the phone, he should respect and care for you enough to call you, if only because he knows that it will make you happy.
* The word “busy” is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact, in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember: Men are never too busy to get what they want.
* You’ll never see you staring maniacally at your phone, willing it to ring. You’ll never see you ruining an evening with friends because you’re calling for your messages every fifteen seconds. You’ll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn’t have. What you will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You’ll be too busy being adored.
* Men, just like women, want to feel emotionally protected when a relationship starts to become serious. One way they do that is by laying claim to it. They actually want to say “I’m your boyfriend” or “I’d like to be your boyfriend” or “If you ever break up with that other guy who’s not your boyfriend, I’d like to be your boyfriend.” A man who’s really into you is going to want you all to himself. And why wouldn’t he, hot stuff?
* It’s about the guy who wants you, calls you, makes you feel sexy and desired fully. He wants to see you more and more often because every time he sees you, he likes and then loves you more and more. Every two weeks, once a month, seeing someone, having a little love and affection may help you get through the day or the week or the month—but will it help you get through a lifetime?
* no more murky, no more gray, no more unidentified, and no more undeclared. And if at all possible, try to know someone as best you can before you get naked with them.
* a fear of intimacy” has never stopped them from getting into a relationship. One guy even remarked, “Fear of intimacy is an urban myth.” Another guy said,“That’s just what we say to girls when we’re just not that into them.”
* cheating doesn’t just “happen.” It’s not an accident as in, “Oops, I just slipped and fell into a sexual relationship with someone else.” It was planned and executed with the full knowledge that it could end your relationship. Know this: If he’s sleeping with someone else without your knowledge or encouragement, he is not only behaving like a man who’s just not that into you, he’s behaving like a man who doesn’t even like you all that much.
* If you are in a mutually established monogamous relationship, then when someone cheats on you, they have decided to blatantly disrespect a very important decision you two made together. They’ve chosen to do this without your knowledge, thereby adding lies and secrecy to your relationship.
* Let’s call cheating what it is: a complete betrayal of trust. Cheaters are people who have a lot of stuff to work out and they’re working it out on your time and with your heart. Some cheaters might give you an excuse, some might not have one at all, some might even blame you. No one can tell you exactly what to do when faced with this very complicated and painful situation. But the bottom line is, is this what you had hoped for in a relationship?
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He Only Wants to See
You When He’s Drunk
If He Likes You, He’ll Want to See You When His
Judgment isn’t Impaired
* Ladies, don’t let your desire to be loved and feel affection cloud your judgment (like a big tall glass of scotch). If you are lucky enough not to be dealing with the profound, painful problems of being married to, living with, or born to, an alcoholic, and you just happen to be dating a guy that you notice drinks an awful lot, please beware. Know you deserve not just an affectionate, attentive boyfriend, but you deserve an affectionate, attentive, sober one.
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He Doesn’t Want to
Marry You
Love Cures Commitment-Phobia
* I’m not ready. This is the most often used excuse in the world, but it always seems to do the trick. Women love waiting around for men to be ready. You women must enjoy it, because you do it so much of the time. Which is ironic to me, since you’re the ones with the biological clocks that are supposedly ticking away. Listen, we all know that couple who’s been dating for five years…eight years and still hasn’t gotten married. We know it never works out well for that couple. So how about you stop waiting—and start looking for that guy who can’t wait to love you.
* He’s Just Not That Into You If
He’s Breaking Up with You
“I Don’t Want to Go Out with You”
Means Just That
* Don’t be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You’re deeply missable. However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.
* Don’t underestimate the power of sex, even with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time.Especially with someone you’ve been doing it with for a very long time. Breaking up means not seeing them again, which also implies not seeing them naked again. It may be tempting to forget this pearl of wisdom, but just remember, it’s still called breakup sex. No one has yet to rename it oh-my-God-the-sexwas-so-good-wegot-back-together-again-and-lived-happily-ever-after sex.
* Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and all your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company. If aliens haven’t recently abducted your beloved and switched his brain for the brain of a guy who’s really into you, please consider the option that the bum maybe just got a little lonely.
* Don’t confuse being classy with being a doormat. Classy is walking away with your head held high, graciously, and with dignity. Being a doormat is offering to drive him to the dentist for his root canal.
* One simple rule, ladies: Always be classy. Never be crazy. Okay, actually it’s two simple rules, but trust me, you will never be sad you followed them. If for no other reason, it will ensure that you never have that awful memory of cutting his clothes in half or dumping his dog on the side of the road.
* A guy says he doesn’t want to be with you. Sometimes that guy realizes he’s made the biggest mistake of his life. And then sometimes he doesn’t. Either way, either way, your only job is to move on with your life, and fast. He can always try to chase you down as you’re running down the block. If he does, just remember that it will sound like this: “Let’s get back together.” “Let’s go into counseling.” “Let’s try again.” “I miss you. I made a mistake. I want to be with you.” Here’s what it won’t sound like: “Will you walk my dog?” “Just calling to check in.” “Want to see that movie?” “Will you go to Cousin George’s wedding with me?”
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He’s Disappeared on You
Sometimes You Have to Get Closure
All by Yourself
* He’s gone. Poof. Vanished into thin air. Well, there’s no mixed message here. He’s made it clear that he’s so not into you that he couldn’t even bother to leave you a Post-it. This time you may not be so quick to make excuses for his behavior. It’s so painful, it’s impossible not to be hurt or angry. But because of that, you might be tempted to make some excuses for yourself. You have good reason to want to spend a lot of energy solving the Mystery of the Disappearing Man. But all those excuses, however valid they are, will not help you in the long run. Because the only part of that story that’s important to remember is that he didn’t want to be with you anymore. And he didn’t have the guts to tell you that to your face. Case closed.
* The reason it’s so painful when someone disappears is you have to face the fact that the person you loved had probably left you a long time before he grabbed his coat and scrammed. The hard part is realizing that he was lying to you, in some way, before the moment of vanishing. Don’t ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could have done it differently. Don’t waste your valuable heart and mind trying to figure out why he did what he did. Or thinking back on all the things he said, and wondering what was the truth and what was the lie. The only thing you need to know is that it’s really good news: He’s gone. Hallelujah. See ya in the funny papers, yellow-belly!
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He’s Married (and Other
Insane Variations of Being Unavailable)
If You’re Not Able to Love Freely,
It’s Not Really Love
* No matter how powerful and real your feelings may be for someone, if that person cannot fully and honestly return them and therefore actively love you back, these feelings mean nothing. Sure, they may feel powerful, deep, mythic in scope and proportion. You may “never ever have felt this way before.” But who cares? If the person you “love” (notice the snotty quotation marks around that) cannot freely spend his days thinking about you and being with you, it’s not real love.
* He’s Just Not That Into You
If He’s a Selfish Jerk, a
Bully, or a Really Big Freak
If You Really Love Someone, You Want to Do
Things to Make That Person Happy
* There’s lots of behavior that can be considered abusive that doesn’t include being beaten about the head and neck. That includes getting yelled at, being publicly humiliated, or being made to feel fat and unattractive. It’s hard to feel worthy of love when someone is going out of their way to make you feel worthless. Being told to get out of these relationships may not work for you. Knowing that you’re better than these relationships is the place to start. You are better than these relationships.
* When two people are connecting, they hunger for information about each other, a sliver of what life is like when you’re not together, a glimpse into their past, a peek into their mind,all in hopes of getting under their skin.
* You will meet people who don’t like to be touched, or kissed, or who don’t like sex. You can spend a lot of time trying to fix them, or wondering if you should take it personally. Or you can realize that they simply don’t like to do the things you find absolutely essential to your enjoyment of life, and then go find yourself someone who does.
* Being lonely, being alone, for many people, sucks. I get it, I get it, I get it. But still I have to say that, yes, my true belief is that being with somebody who makes you feel shitty or doesn’t honor the person you are, is worse.
* You want to believe that you are better than all the crap you’ve been taking from all these men all these years. Well you are. You are an excellent, foxy human being worthy of love, and the only way you can pursue that idea is by honoring yourself. At the very least this means ridding your world of dudes who are not worthy and setting a standard of excellence in your daily life.
* Let’s start with this statistic: You are delicious. Be brave, my sweet. I know you can get lonely. I know you can crave companionship and sex and love so badly that it physically hurts. But I truly believe that the only way you can find out that there’s something better out there is to first believe there’s something better out there. I’ll believe it for you until you’re ready.
* Don’t Listen to These Stories->Sure. There are the stories. Guys that get pursued by some girl first and she ends up being the love of his life; the guy that treats this girl that he sometimes sleeps with like shit for a couple of years, but she keeps at him and now he’s a devoted husband and father; the guy who doesn’t call a girl that he’s slept with for a month, and then calls her and they live happily ever after; the woman who is sleeping with the married guy who she ends up marrying and having a blissful long-term marriage with. We don’t want you to listen to these stories. These stories don’t help you. These stories are the exceptions to the rule. We want you to think of yourself as the rule. Thinking of yourself as the exception is what got you into this mess in the first place. Tell your friends to stop telling you these stories. Whenever you hear one of these stories, a story where some woman was treated badly but it all worked out okay in the end, just put your hands up to your ears and go “la-la-la-la-la!” You are exceptional, but not the exception!!
* But I think we could ask you to at least try to notice, even just a tiny bit, how good it feels to be out of a relationship with someone who actually wasn’t that into you. Can you at least feel that sense of relief? When you think about it, making all those excuses for someone and trying to “figure someone out” takes up a lot of energy. Think of all the time you’ve opened up for so many other more positive things besides obsessing over him. Yes, breakups are painful, even from someone you may have only dated a few times. You may have been really excited about him and had a lot of hopes for the future. But how empowering to have the mental clarity to say, “He just wasn’t that into me.” Can you imagine that girl in the future? Nothing will be able to stop her!
* Standard Suggestions from Greg and LIz
I will not go out with a man who hasn’t asked me out first.
I will not go out with a man who keeps me waiting by the phone.
I will not date a man who isn’t sure he wants to date me.
I will not date a man who makes me feel sexually undesirable.
I will not date a man who drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable.
will not be with a man who’s afraid to talk about our future.
I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me.
I will not date a man who is married.
I will not be with a man who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.
* being in a good relationship is much better than being in a bad relationship, and you’ll never be able to be in a good relationship if you’re sticking with Mr. Shitty What’s His Name. Only you can know if the relationship you’re in isn’t good enough for you. A good indication that it’s not is if you’re only staying with What’s His Name because you’re scared.
Quotes from Tuesdays with Morrie
“Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do”; “Accept the past as past, without denying it or discarding it”; “Learn to forgive yourself and to forgive others”; “Don’t assume that it’s too late to get involved.”
“Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. You take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted.“A tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us live somewhere in the middle. “
“The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it.”
“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”
“I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life.
Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too—even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.”
We’re so wrapped up with egotistical things, career, family, having enough money, meeting the mortgage, getting a new car, fixing the radiator when it breaks—we’re involved in trillions of little acts just to keep going. So we don’t get into the habit of standing back and looking at our lives and saying, Is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing?”
“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.”- Henry Adams
“Everyone knows they’re going to die, but nobody believes it.”
“once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”
“most of us all walk around as if we’re sleepwalking. We really don’t experience the world fully, because we’re half-asleep, doing things we automatically think we have to do.”
if you accept that you can die at any time then you might not be as ambitious as you are.”
“The things you spend so much time on—all this work you do—might not seem as important. You might have to make room for some more spiritual things.”
we’re deficient in some way. We are too involved in materialistic things, and they don’t satisfy us. The loving relationships we have, the universe around us, we take these things for granted.”
there is no foundation, no secure ground, upon which people may stand today if it isn’t the family.
If you want the experience of having complete responsibility for another human being, and to learn how to love and bond in the deepest way, then you should have children.”
Don’t cling to things, because everything is impermanent.”
If you hold back on the emotions—if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them—you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. “But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.’”
for loneliness: you let go, let the tears flow, feel it completely—but eventually be able to say, “All right, that was my moment with loneliness. I’m not afraid of feeling lonely, but now I’m going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world, and I’m going to experience them as well.”
“We put our values in the wrong things. And it leads to very disillusioned lives.
if you’re trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down at you anyhow. And if you’re trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.”
“Each night, when I go to sleep, I die. And the next morning, when I wake up, I am reborn.”-Mahatma Gandhi
about marriage,” “You get tested. You find out who you are, who the other person is, and how you accommodate or don’t.”
If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.
“It’s not just other people we need to forgive, We also need to forgive ourselves.” For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done. You can’t get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened. That doesn’t help you
Death is as natural as life. It’s part of the deal we made.
“It’s natural to die,” “The fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don’t see ourselves as part of nature. We think because we’re human we’re something above nature.”
“As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on—in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here.”“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”
there is no such thing as “too late” in life.
“Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. You take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted.“A tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us live somewhere in the middle. “
“The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it.”
“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”
“I give myself a good cry if I need it. But then I concentrate on all the good things still in my life.
Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too—even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.”
We’re so wrapped up with egotistical things, career, family, having enough money, meeting the mortgage, getting a new car, fixing the radiator when it breaks—we’re involved in trillions of little acts just to keep going. So we don’t get into the habit of standing back and looking at our lives and saying, Is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing?”
“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.”- Henry Adams
“Everyone knows they’re going to die, but nobody believes it.”
“once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”
“most of us all walk around as if we’re sleepwalking. We really don’t experience the world fully, because we’re half-asleep, doing things we automatically think we have to do.”
if you accept that you can die at any time then you might not be as ambitious as you are.”
“The things you spend so much time on—all this work you do—might not seem as important. You might have to make room for some more spiritual things.”
we’re deficient in some way. We are too involved in materialistic things, and they don’t satisfy us. The loving relationships we have, the universe around us, we take these things for granted.”
there is no foundation, no secure ground, upon which people may stand today if it isn’t the family.
If you want the experience of having complete responsibility for another human being, and to learn how to love and bond in the deepest way, then you should have children.”
Don’t cling to things, because everything is impermanent.”
If you hold back on the emotions—if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them—you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. “But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.’”
for loneliness: you let go, let the tears flow, feel it completely—but eventually be able to say, “All right, that was my moment with loneliness. I’m not afraid of feeling lonely, but now I’m going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world, and I’m going to experience them as well.”
“We put our values in the wrong things. And it leads to very disillusioned lives.
if you’re trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down at you anyhow. And if you’re trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.”
“Each night, when I go to sleep, I die. And the next morning, when I wake up, I am reborn.”-Mahatma Gandhi
about marriage,” “You get tested. You find out who you are, who the other person is, and how you accommodate or don’t.”
If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.
“It’s not just other people we need to forgive, We also need to forgive ourselves.” For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done. You can’t get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened. That doesn’t help you
Death is as natural as life. It’s part of the deal we made.
“It’s natural to die,” “The fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is all because we don’t see ourselves as part of nature. We think because we’re human we’re something above nature.”
“As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on—in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here.”“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”
there is no such thing as “too late” in life.
CONVENTION OF THOSE WOUNDED IN LOVE by Paulo Coelho(repost)
(from Paulo Coelho’s site Warrior of the Light Online)
General provisions:
A – Whereas the saying “all is fair in love and war” is absolutely correct;
B – Whereas for war we have the Geneva Convention, approved on 22 August 1864, which provides for those wounded in the battle field, but until now no convention has been signed concerning those wounded in love, who are far greater in number;
It is hereby decreed that:
Article 1 – All lovers, of any sex, are alerted that love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage. Consequently, anyone planning to love should be aware that they are exposing their body and soul to various types of wounds, and that they shall not be able to blame their partner at any moment, since the risk is the same for both.
Article 2 – Once struck by a stray arrow fired from Cupid’s bow, they should immediately ask the archer to shoot the same arrow in the opposite direction, so as not to be afflicted by the wound known as “unrequited love”. Should Cupid refuse to perform such a gesture, the Convention now being promulgated demands that the wounded partner remove the arrow from his/her heart and throw it in the garbage. In order to guarantee this, those concerned should avoid telephone calls, messages over the Internet, sending flowers that are always returned, or each and every means of seduction, since these may yield results in the short run but always end up wrong after a while. The Convention decrees that the wounded person should immediately seek the company of other people and try to control the obsessive thought: “this person is worth fighting for”.
Article 3 – If the wound is caused by third parties, in other words if the loved one has become interested in someone not in the script previously drafted, vengeance is expressly forbidden. In this case, it is allowed to use tears until the eyes dry up, to punch walls or pillows, to insult the ex-partner in conversations with friends, to allege his/her complete lack of taste, but without offending their honor. The Convention determines that the rule contained in Article 2 be applied: seek the company of other persons, preferably in places different from those frequented by the other party.
Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly. Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one's decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.
Article 5 – In all definitive wounds, also known as “breaking up”, the only medicine capable of having an effect is called Time. It is no use seeking consolation from fortune-tellers (who always say that the lost lover will return), romantic books (which always have a happy ending), soap-operas on the television or other such things. One should suffer intensely, completely avoiding drugs, tranquilizers and praying to saints. Alcohol is only tolerated if kept to a maximum of two glasses of wine a day.
Final determination: Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers. They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.
And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.
General provisions:
A – Whereas the saying “all is fair in love and war” is absolutely correct;
B – Whereas for war we have the Geneva Convention, approved on 22 August 1864, which provides for those wounded in the battle field, but until now no convention has been signed concerning those wounded in love, who are far greater in number;
It is hereby decreed that:
Article 1 – All lovers, of any sex, are alerted that love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage. Consequently, anyone planning to love should be aware that they are exposing their body and soul to various types of wounds, and that they shall not be able to blame their partner at any moment, since the risk is the same for both.
Article 2 – Once struck by a stray arrow fired from Cupid’s bow, they should immediately ask the archer to shoot the same arrow in the opposite direction, so as not to be afflicted by the wound known as “unrequited love”. Should Cupid refuse to perform such a gesture, the Convention now being promulgated demands that the wounded partner remove the arrow from his/her heart and throw it in the garbage. In order to guarantee this, those concerned should avoid telephone calls, messages over the Internet, sending flowers that are always returned, or each and every means of seduction, since these may yield results in the short run but always end up wrong after a while. The Convention decrees that the wounded person should immediately seek the company of other people and try to control the obsessive thought: “this person is worth fighting for”.
Article 3 – If the wound is caused by third parties, in other words if the loved one has become interested in someone not in the script previously drafted, vengeance is expressly forbidden. In this case, it is allowed to use tears until the eyes dry up, to punch walls or pillows, to insult the ex-partner in conversations with friends, to allege his/her complete lack of taste, but without offending their honor. The Convention determines that the rule contained in Article 2 be applied: seek the company of other persons, preferably in places different from those frequented by the other party.
Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly. Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one's decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.
Article 5 – In all definitive wounds, also known as “breaking up”, the only medicine capable of having an effect is called Time. It is no use seeking consolation from fortune-tellers (who always say that the lost lover will return), romantic books (which always have a happy ending), soap-operas on the television or other such things. One should suffer intensely, completely avoiding drugs, tranquilizers and praying to saints. Alcohol is only tolerated if kept to a maximum of two glasses of wine a day.
Final determination: Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers. They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.
And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.
Dec 15, 2009
Handsome Rodrigo
I can't get my mind off Rodrigo Santoro the moment i saw him in the movies Love Actually and Post Grad. He is just simply yummylicious, i love his eyes, if he would look straight at me,i would surely melt (haha,i am definitely fantasizing)
ultimate hottie...yummmm..
hmmmmmmm rodriiiiiiiigggggoooooo!
10 Things I Hate About Myself
I haven't done some lists entries for quite a while,so i came up with this,so tadaaa..here it goes.....
1. I instantly say bad words(puta,fuck,shit,bwisit,yawa,pisti) whenever i am surprised,pissed off and angry.
2. I love putting myself down sometimes,i easily believe in other people when they say some bad things about me and i dwell on it too long.
3. I love him so much and i hate myself for that.
4. I easily trust people
5. I am insecure especially when PMS-ing, too insecure that i started to doubt myself and my capabilties.
6. I easily get bored,my attention span is like that of a 6 year old kid.
7. I easily get impatient, i want fast results,fast working people,fast services, i don't wanna wait.
8. I don't know how to say no.
9. I easily make decisions without weighing the pros and cons of it.
10. I dwell on the past too much(especially bad experiences and heartaches) and get too emotional about it.
1. I instantly say bad words(puta,fuck,shit,bwisit,yawa,pisti) whenever i am surprised,pissed off and angry.
2. I love putting myself down sometimes,i easily believe in other people when they say some bad things about me and i dwell on it too long.
3. I love him so much and i hate myself for that.
4. I easily trust people
5. I am insecure especially when PMS-ing, too insecure that i started to doubt myself and my capabilties.
6. I easily get bored,my attention span is like that of a 6 year old kid.
7. I easily get impatient, i want fast results,fast working people,fast services, i don't wanna wait.
8. I don't know how to say no.
9. I easily make decisions without weighing the pros and cons of it.
10. I dwell on the past too much(especially bad experiences and heartaches) and get too emotional about it.
Dec 14, 2009
This is How I Do It
these are all i need to get me through the day->headset,internet connection,couple of english and a smile =)
Dec 12, 2009
Image.....
I had an amazingly great sleep last night which involves one confusing dream, there were thousands of soldiers in it, what the heck are they doing in my dreamland? hmm the hell i care. I woke up in the right side of the bed and i just simply feel good. I went to the office with my headsets on and just enjoyed some really great music-> The Pixies,311,Gwen Stefani,Kelly Clarkson and Nirvana. I don't know but whenever i listen to Kurt Cobain's voice i just feel so alive as if my soul is lifted up and reached total heaven(haha, what an exaggeration). I love Kurt Cobain, my day isn't complete if i can't hear his voice. I am attracted to guys like him. I am greatly fascinated with smart junkies and guys with long hair and a somewhat bad image(rockstar image as i called them), in fact i even dated one before. Some people say that i should avoid those types but guess what, the one i dated turned out to be a great and loyal boyfriend. On the other hand, the one i dated who seems to have a good image(clean cut,gentlemen kunwari) turned out to be the jerk, kala mo santo pero numero unong cheater. So you see, image isn't really everything. You can never really tell a person's true character base only on what you see, a person's true character is what is inside that person's heart.
Dec 11, 2009
EMO......
Somebody changed my views on romantic love. I only see it now in the confines of romantic novels and movies. I used to be one of those believers in happy-ever-after,in butterflies inside the stomach when with the object of ones affection,of goosebumps,attraction,electricity, and other out of this world sensations. I experienced those things and at that time,it really felt good,i felt so alive and vibrant,love colors my world. But then again,when things didn't turn out quite well and my object of affection was smitten with another lady,he took all those magic with him leaving me stone cold and numb. It's been a while since i haven't felt those magic, I honestly kind of miss it.
Dec 8, 2009
Memorable One-Liners
I spend my night today by watching Jerry Maguire,well i got some few sobs. The movie contains some memorable one liners. Here are some of those:
Jerry Maguire: I won't let you get rid of me.
Jerry Maguire: We live in a cynical world. A cynical world. And we work in a business of tough competitors. I love you. You... complete me.
Dorothy: Shut up, just shut up. You had me at "hello".
Dorothy: I've had three lovers in the past four years, and they all ran a distant second to a good book and a warm bath.
Dorothy: Maybe love shouldn't be such hard work.
Dorothy: I love him! I love him for the man he wants to be. And I love him for the man he almost is.
Avery Bishop: There is a sensitivity thing that some people have. I don't have it. I don't cry at movies, I don't gush over babies, I don't buy Christmas presents 5 months early, and I DON'T tell the guy who just ruined both our lives, "Oh, poor baby." But I do love you.
Jerry Maguire: I won't let you get rid of me.
Jerry Maguire: We live in a cynical world. A cynical world. And we work in a business of tough competitors. I love you. You... complete me.
Dorothy: Shut up, just shut up. You had me at "hello".
Dorothy: I've had three lovers in the past four years, and they all ran a distant second to a good book and a warm bath.
Dorothy: Maybe love shouldn't be such hard work.
Dorothy: I love him! I love him for the man he wants to be. And I love him for the man he almost is.
Avery Bishop: There is a sensitivity thing that some people have. I don't have it. I don't cry at movies, I don't gush over babies, I don't buy Christmas presents 5 months early, and I DON'T tell the guy who just ruined both our lives, "Oh, poor baby." But I do love you.
Dec 3, 2009
Life,Family and Booze
Dec 1, 2009
Flawed But Awesome
I can smile about it now,but at that time,it was terrible-Morrissey
My title has something to do with the book i read recently. It's an autobiography of one of Britain's well-known stand up comedian,Russell Brand(yeah Katy Perry's boyfriend). My Booky Wook,accounts Russell's early life,career,and his struggle against addiction on both illegal substance and sex. It's the most honest bio i've read ,there's no hypocrisy in it,it seems like this is me,take it or leave it. He had this certain ability with vocabularies and language. I was greatly hooked with how he presented his experiences in a way that you'll be so absorbed in it. He is an incredibly funny writer who makes his crazy life as if it's a big joke and in fact he did make a living out of it as a stand up comedian. I admire him,he is totally flawed but he fought so hard to overcome his addictions and eventually came out triumphant as he himself really find ways to make his life better and look at him now, a lot of projects come his way. After reading his bio, my idea of a perfect guy changed, for me,he has to be funny,smart(1 million pogi points)can speak good english, interesting,sweet ,LOYAL, and flawed but awesome. I don't like perfect gentlemen,perfect gentlemen are boring. =)..
My title has something to do with the book i read recently. It's an autobiography of one of Britain's well-known stand up comedian,Russell Brand(yeah Katy Perry's boyfriend). My Booky Wook,accounts Russell's early life,career,and his struggle against addiction on both illegal substance and sex. It's the most honest bio i've read ,there's no hypocrisy in it,it seems like this is me,take it or leave it. He had this certain ability with vocabularies and language. I was greatly hooked with how he presented his experiences in a way that you'll be so absorbed in it. He is an incredibly funny writer who makes his crazy life as if it's a big joke and in fact he did make a living out of it as a stand up comedian. I admire him,he is totally flawed but he fought so hard to overcome his addictions and eventually came out triumphant as he himself really find ways to make his life better and look at him now, a lot of projects come his way. After reading his bio, my idea of a perfect guy changed, for me,he has to be funny,smart(1 million pogi points)can speak good english, interesting,sweet ,LOYAL, and flawed but awesome. I don't like perfect gentlemen,perfect gentlemen are boring. =)..
Nov 30, 2009
Witters.......
I'm still up at 12am while writing this blog,can't seem to sleep so might as well pen something in here,these are just mainly random thoughts anyway. So first stop, i did ask our SE to unblock personal pages on K9 in the pc I'm using at the office and it's done , so i can now write about any stuffs that i can think of. I love to write and just merely pour my thoughts out,because if i won't, all those things would vanish and i can't recall what i really wanted to express. Writing is the outlet of my repressed emotions,i feel good whenever i can write about something that bothers me or something that i can't freely say to my closest friend,i feel like a part of my burden was lifted off me.. ....shift...... i had a great day,it turned out really well, nothing much actually,it's just an ordinary sunday to me but everything was good....shift....i'm okey now and i actually don't feel any pangs of jealousy at all when i knew that they'll meet, in fact i even sincerely wish both of them well so it means that i am fully okey, there's no use getting bitter on things that were way long over and done with.....shift.....I am deeply satisfied with the way my life goes right now,less complicated and less painful,maybe no woman no cry by bob marley rings true,but then i am a woman so it would be this way-->no man no cry,oh here goes my cynical self again! ......shift......tomorrow is a holiday,wohooo! no work, i'll sleep and sleep and sleep and sleep and wish to never wake up,nahhh,just kidding,of course i love life, i want to experience how it is to be fully alive and fulfilled, there are still a lot of things i wanted to achieve.....shift....i'll spend my holiday by sleeping,blogging,watching movies while munching on junk foods,texting and soundtripping....shift....i really feel sad over the brutal massacre in Maguindanao,those who did it should be shot to death,how can they be so cruel,so many dark forces around the world,i wish they'll perish so that this world will be a better place,mamatay na lang unta silang tanan,gago silang lahat ng may gawa nun! .....shift....i'm sleepy so i gotta hit the sack now and hopefully will be visited with pleasant dreams.....goodnight everyone,tomorrow is another day..hmmm gone with the wind ang tirada?..hehe...xoxo....not gossip girl...just me....nyt2
Nov 29, 2009
Whatever Happens,I'll Handle It
I had a lesson this afternoon with one of my prettiest student,Miss Yuki. We used a material as a reference for our discussion,this is the title--> 8 Tips on How to Build Your Confidence. There was this line, it says "Whatever happens,I'll handle it". And when we say I'll handle it, it means, I'll learn from it, I'll grow from it and I'll make it a triumph. According to the material,when something bothers you,you just have to repeat this powerful phrase 10 times and somehow you'll have a sense of peace within you. This phrase is very important especially once "what ifs" comes up. It will serve as an antidote when we will be faced with worries that greatly bothers us.
These are some of the recurring "what ifs" i usually have
* what if I'll accidentally meet my former flame again
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if I'll not get married before I'll reach 30 years old
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if I'll get broke and there'd be no single peso left in my wallet
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if i can't bear a child?
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if I'll be unemployed
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if I'll grow old alone and dying
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* and to all my other what ifs,here's what I'll only say, WHATEVER HAPPENS,I'LL HANDLE IT
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if I'll not get married before I'll reach 30 years old
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if I'll get broke and there'd be no single peso left in my wallet
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if i can't bear a child?
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if I'll be unemployed
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* what if I'll grow old alone and dying
-->whatever happens,I'll handle it
* and to all my other what ifs,here's what I'll only say, WHATEVER HAPPENS,I'LL HANDLE IT
POSITIVITY is the key (wink ,wink)
Nov 25, 2009
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Nov 23, 2009
First
I can't come up with a really nice title,so I'd settle with First instead. This is my first entry and i have nothing much to share yet. hmmm why Inner Chaos?... because this blog is all about the thoughts that had been struggling to pop out in my head. I choose blogspot as an avenue to air out those thoughts,thus the name Inner Chaos.This blog will contain honest and uncensored views,realizations,and opinions on different topics....so that's all for now, ciao =)
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